Several people have asked who these books are written about or if they are about anyone at all, and I have to say no. Sure, there are some personality traits that I've taken from one person or another that I know, but this book is actually more about the impacts of intergenerational trauma.
Working as a counsellor is interesting because there are people from all walks of life that come to chat with me. Some people come in and say, "I had a great childhood, everything was fine, but I just can't figure out what's wrong with me." And sometimes, as we discuss their childhood, we realize that they may not have had severe trauma, but their parents did, and because of that the parents were disengaged and unable to build strong attachments with their kids. This means the kids struggle from unhealthy attachment styles that they bring with them into adulthood and creates a plethora of challenges for an adult with poor attachment.
Intergenerational trauma is so difficult for individuals because they don't know why they aren't loved or where their trust issues come from. Also, there is a much greater likelihood that the individual will experience trauma themselves because of family patterns.
*spoiler alert*
In this chapter, I wanted to show that the self-esteem issues Brianna struggles with are her own trauma to deal with, but the root cause is her mom's trauma, brought on by her parents' trauma of losing a child and her own trauma of losing a sister. It's not anyone's fault when these things happen, but understanding your own trauma and dealing with it can really help to stop the cycle to the next generation.
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